All people can be difficult. So, in every relationship, no matter how happy, there are times when you want to create separation. That’s normal. But some people are so difficult that you find yourself fending off their attacks in the late hours of the night, when they’re not even around! This is not normal. To meet or not to meet. If this question has ever kept you up at night, then chances are you’re dealing with an abnormally difficult individual. In this post, we present some information on recognizing your situation before it’s too late. 

When you’re with this person, there is only mindlessness

What is mindlessness? Well, have you ever tried to hold a full bladder? It’s the same feeling. You can’t really think. You don’t know what you’re doing. The only thing you’re aware of is that there’s a lot going on, and you can’t get a hold of your mind. Hence, the term mindless. 

You are not being yourself around this person

If we’re being honest, nobody is ever completely themselves around another person. But for the most part, they are. They may have a secret or two, but that’s why we said for the most part. This particular individual however makes you feel like you’re suppressing every fiber of your being. You may even find yourself literally holding your breath around them. You may also find yourself furrowing your eyebrows and making very little eye contact.

Somehow, you start thinking about being nice

We all like to be nice. It helps us avoid social discomfort. But when you’re with this person, that need to be nice kicks into overdrive. The most sacrificial option draws all of your thoughts, and we’re talking about the kind of sacrifice that leaves you utterly miserable, as though every part of your mind and body is screaming. It fits right in with the stress you’re already fighting, at this point.

Suddenly, pride offers its presence

This pride is not the kind of pride that comes from getting good grades or doing good at work. This pride feels like the kind that comes when a soldier saves his/her country from a truly catastrophic threat. It feels like the moment that history has been waiting for. 

And then, before you know it, another long stretch of mindlessness has passed

Once again, essentials, dreams, goals and priorities disappear anxiously into the chaos of immediate context. 

At the end of the day, you’re left with stress, exhaustion and just that little bit of relief

The stress and exhaustion are a given, but the relief — the relief would be more than a little if you had any idea how to handle the next meeting. But since you don’t, it stays at “just a little.” Why that little? Well, because you’re free for at least the next few days or hours.  

Thank you for reading.