Have you ever lashed out at someone verbally or physically? Have you ever thrown a tantrum at a problem instead of solving it? Do you think about hurting someone in bed? These are all behavior problems. In this post, we discuss these problems and explain how you can overcome them.
DISORDERS THAT CAUSE BEHAVIOR PROBLEMS
Anxiety disorder
Everybody worries. Even children worry about exams or how much play time they’ll get. But anxiety is the next level. You become so emotionally overwhelmed by a worry that you can barely think or move. Anxiety causes behavior problems such as alcoholism, addictions, abandoned responsibilities and rage.
Depression
At its essence, depression is giving up on life. Someone who feels like they have nothing to lose can be a problem to themselves and others.
Bipolar disorder
This one basically has you thinking that you are the greatest, most powerful thing in the world. It can be aggressive. For example, you may try to take on 6 trained fighters all by yourself just to prove your “invincibility.” Of course, this is dangerous. It can also be dangerous in other ways. You might spend all your money on a rolex because you feel like the richest and most talented person in the world, for instance. Bipolar disorder causes very serious behavior problems.
Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD)
This is a frustrating disorder. You constantly need to do something, and you have endless energy, but nobody else will cooperate. Not only will they not cooperate, but they’ll try to advise you on patience which is damn near impossible thanks to your low attention span.
Learning disorders
There are few things that hurt as bad as a handicap/disadvantage. It is the same with learning disorders. The world moves on and it leaves you for dead. Sometimes, it’s a specific learning disability. Or, it’s a pervasive developmental disorder like mental retardation or autism.
Conduct disorders
Conduct disorders most often result from bad parenting. Difficult childhood temperament and deceitful/ manipulative childhood behaviors, if not controlled and set right, will lead to a full-blown conduct disorder at a more advanced age.
Eating disorders
Essentially, this is either excessive denial of food or excessive indulgence in food. You can imagine what denying your body basic food intake would do to your mind and behavior. As for indulgence, we are all familiar with the devilry of body abuse and shaming.
Schizophrenia
Ghosts, gremlins, voices, whispers, dangerous men and women — the stuff of horror movies and nightmares — become all too real, when you have schizophrenia.
Oppositional defiant disorder
This disorder makes one extremely confrontational. The person picks fights just to piss off others and authorities.
COMMON CAUSES FOR BEHAVIOR PROBLEMS THAT ARE NOT DISORDERS
Family dysfunction
We all know the examples. Those families were people abuse one another, scream at one another, take out mental illness on the kids etc. Someone from a dysfunctional family is significantly more likely to have a behavior problem than someone who is from a functional family.
Social dysfunction
If you regularly feel oppressed or left-out in your social environment, it will wear down your patience and your conscience. Before long, you’ll have a behavior problem. You will act out in social situations.
Stress
Stress is caused by lack of control over dreams and demands.
Anger
Some people have an anger problem. This makes life a bit more problematic for them. In most cases, it can be controlled through sensitivity training. But in some cases, it may just take putting-up with.
Lack of support
You may have a great family, a thriving social life and the coolest temperament in the world. If there is a big problem in your life for which you are getting no support, in time, none of that will matter. For example, the LGBTQ+ community often have behavior problems for this reason. They are closeted, so they are loved by family, accepted by friends and have no anger problems. But they feel so alone that it eventually doesn’t feel worth it be patient with anything — people or otherwise. Another example is someone with a hidden addiction. They have good family and friends, but with their addiction, they get no support. This is enough for them to toss everything they have into the wind and rage like a Neptunian storm.
CHANGING UNDESIRABLE BEHAVIORS – ACCORDING TO SCIENCE
Give it time
People can’t change any habitual behavior, overnight. No matter how bad they may want to or need to.
Functional family therapy
This is for cases where family dysfunction is the problem. It is a vast science. A trained professional can guide you through the process.
Deal with stress
Plan and prioritize to deal with fast-moving demands and attainable dreams. As for unattainable dreams, these are somehow broken. For example an ex-relationship. As much as I wish there was an easier way, the only real way to deal with broken dreams is accepting the loss and building a brand new dream to hold on to.
Ensure support and follow the science
It makes you pathetic to ask for support? Sure. But you can’t change a behavior without support. Get the person you are with in a room with you and a professional (because they know the science). Educate yourself and the support person about your condition, and follow the professional’s recommendations, as you journey through behavior change.
Take your medication
Changing a behavior is not going to sit well with your brain. Your brain will be like “You made me do this all these years! I’ve gotten used to it! Now, you just want to stop? Just like that? WTF?” Medication can help calm your brain down and accept the change; and in the case of a disorder, there is literally no other way.
SUMMARY
That’s it for this one! Hope you enjoyed the read and walked away with some good information! Sound off in the comments below!